How To Survive the Storm If Your Mother Is A Narcissist?

Motherhood is often idealized in our society, with unrealistic expectations that place immense pressure on mothers to be perfect. In many cultures, there is an ingrained expectation to care for our aging parents, even if they haven't always treated us well. Failing to do so can result in negative judgments from others, creating a social taboo.

For daughters of narcissistic mothers, seeking approval can feel like an endless struggle. Narcissistic mothers, who often lack empathy and a healthy understanding of love, can leave their children feeling perpetually unfulfilled. If you are a daughter of a narcissistic mother, it is crucial to recognize that you may never receive the validation you seek. It's time to accept that she may not have the capacity to provide the emotional support you need.

You can chose to stop shaking a person to give you want you need and want, time over time, because she just doesn't have it. She doesn't have it. She doesn't have a healthy definition of love, compassion, or the idyllic definition of motherhood.

Motherhood doesn't mean that you are Kate before birth and become Mother Theresa after giving birth. Motherhood does not magically transform a person into a loving, compassionate parent. Pregnancy and childbirth do not automatically come with parenting skills or a deep understanding of nurturing. Individuals who struggle with personal issues, such as narcissism or mental health challenges, can still become parents. Their fundamental characteristics do not change simply because they have given birth.

If you have suffered due to a narcissistic mother, it is important to acknowledge and validate your experiences. However, holding on to the hope that your narcissistic mother will change or provide the love you always desired will only prolong your pain. Instead, focus on breaking the cycle. Break the loop, snap yourself out of it. You have the power to create a loving and supportive environment for yourself and your family.

Consider how others have found resilience and strength despite challenging circumstances. For example, many individuals who grew up in foster care or faced other hardships have gone on to lead fulfilling lives. You, too, can build a life filled with love, kindness, and self-compassion.

Remember, life is a gift, and you have the opportunity to shape your own happiness. Surround yourself with positive influences, nurture your own well-being, and create a supportive environment for your children. Also read my blog post on how to raise your vibration. By doing so, you can forge a path that is distinctly your own, filled with the love and the approval you deserve.

Stay healthy and care less, friends.